After the success we had with a previous article “How not to fall in love with someone”, we decided to create a few words dedicated to those who are looking for love. And let’s face it, most of the time, the rule “you’ll know it when you see it” is very true. Falling in love is not simply a social interaction but also a chemical reaction, here some tips that will help make your first dates count.
1) Love yourself first. It sounds banal but it is true. If you love & accept yourself for who you are, you will be open to embracing another’s love.
2) The first impression counts. Be sure you feel attracted to the person. As simple as that. There shouldn’t be any doubt about it. Look for a person that meets your beauty, intellectual and personality standards. Someone that you really desire and can turn on your fire.
3) More than a first glance. Despite rule #2 being crucial, make sure this person is looking for and wants someone in their life for the right reasons. Remember there is a big difference between wanting and needing someone. Therefore look for someone that is independent, confident and doesn’t need to be the centre of attention all the time and constantly reassured.
4) It’s all about the eyes. Look deeply into your date’s eyes while smiling, in this way you will stimulate areas in your brain that are strictly related to feeling of comfort and intimacy. If his/her pupils expand, the interest is mutual.
5) Mimic the other’s body language. Mirroring gestures, tone of voice and facial expressions are all signs that show a strong affinity within the couple. Psychologists have shown that falling in love has little to do with what is said, rather: 55% has to do with body language, 38% has to do with the tone and speed of their voice, only 7% has to do with what they say.
6) Let’s get personal. Share intimate details about your life for at least half an hour, then stare deeply into each other’s eyes without talking for 4 minutes; according to Psychology Professor Arthur Aron these are 34 critical minutes.
7) Sharing is caring. Involve your date in your daily life. Share mutual interests which can create memories to talk about in the future. Concerts, picnics, museums are all good examples.
8) The teasing game. It helps break the ice and spice things up. It highlights a sense of mutual comfort. Plus is always good to win someone’s heart over with sense of humour.
9) Show affection in public. Empathy is a great bonding and is aided by little effusions. If displayed openly it is that little something that makes the difference and make that moment count even more. If your date is open to share romantic and sexy moments like holding hands when walking around, kissing in the elevator, cuddling at the movies (let’s not get too cheesy now!) it’s a good sign to let yourself go and enjoy these moments.
10) Make love to your chosen one consecutively: the Oxcytocin produced deepens the feelings of attachments, increases level of trust and cements bonds.